Ingabe uvame ukuphupha undiza? Ingabe undiza ngenjabulo emafwini noma ingabe ukhona umuzwa omubi? Ake sihlole izincazelo eziningi zamaphupho mayelana nokundiza nokuthi ubuchopho bakho bukutshelani.
Amaphupho okundiza aphakathi kokuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo nokukhumbulekayo esingaba nakho lapho silele. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi undiza ngokuzikhandla esibhakabhakeni esicwathile noma uzama ukuhlala phezulu, la maphupho ngokuvamile ashiya umbono ohlala njalo. Kodwa asho ukuthini ngempela?
Kuwo wonke amasiko ahlukene kanye nemibono yengqondo, amaphupho okundiza axhunyaniswe nenkululeko, isifiso sokuvelela, ngisho nokukhathazeka okujulile. Ngokuhlola umongo nemizwa ezungeze iphupho lakho, ungadalula lokho onganakile ozama ukukutshela kona. Uma usemncane uphupha undiza lokho kungachaza ukukhula kokululeka komzimba ngobude.
Izincazelo ezingokomoya zokundiza ephusheni lakho
Ukuphupho undiza ngelinye lamaphupho ayisisekelo samasiko atholwa abantu emhlabeni wonke futhi abe kuwo wonke umlando oqoshiwe. Ngakho-ke, izimpawu ezingokomoya ezingemuva kwamaphupho nokuhlukahluka kwamaphupho okundiza zibanzi – zihlanganisa amaphupho okundiza okunamandla ezimotweni, ukundiza esibhakabhakeni esicwathile, phezu kwamanzi azolile noma aneziyaluyalu, namaphupho lapho ukundiza kujabulisa futhi lapho kuthusa khona. Njengazo zonke izincazelo zamaphupho, nokho, iphupho ngokwalo alibalulekile kakhulu kunezici zalo.
Ukuhlaziya okuningi kwesimanje kuxhumanisa amaphupho amahle okundiza nomuntu ophuphayo elangazelela inkululeko, ubuchopho buzama ukuthola izindlela ezintsha zokunqoba izinkinga zethu. Isibonelo, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esidumile uCarl Jung wayekholelwa ukuthi ingqondo isebenzisa amaphupho ukuze ifinyelele ukulinganisela. Ngakho-ke, abaphuphi abahlangabezana namaphupho okukhuphuka phezulu, ezimpilweni zabo ezivukayo, bakalwa yizinkinga ezivamile (ngomqondo wazo wasekuqaleni we-‘earthly’) zokuphila kwabo kwansuku zonke.
Lawa maphupho amahle andizayo angaphinda abonise isidingo sokuthola umbono obanzi – ukuze usondeze izinkinga zakho futhi ungaphazanyiswa yizinto ezincane zokuphila noma ukuthi uguquko noma ushintsho olukhulu luyeza.
Amaphupho ngokundiza angalungile abelana kakhulu namaphupho okuwa – angabonisa ukulahlekelwa, ukulahlekelwa ukuxhumana nabangane nomndeni, noma ukukhathazeka ngokuthi senze umsebenzi omkhulu kakhulu futhi, njengo-Icarus, indizela eduze kakhulu nelanga
Okujwayelekile kuthatha amaphupho abandakanya ukundiza
Kusukela ekundizeni ngemoto yekusasa ukuya ekundizeni phezu kwamanzi noma nje esibhakabhakeni, uSuperman-esque, kunezincazelo ngemuva ngakunye. Ake sihlole okunye kwalokhu ngokuningiliziwe
1. Ukuphupha undiza ngemoto
Amaphupho ngokundiza endizeni noma kwenye imoto kungabonisa ukuthi unamathuluzi atholakalayo okunqoba izinkinga zakho ezisheshayo futhi kungase kuhunyushwe njengesidingo esiqulekile sokubeka ingozi esimweni esiyinselele.
2. Ukuphupha undiza esibhakabhakeni esicwathile
Amaphupho ngokundiza angamela isifiso esingazi lutho kumphuphi sokuzikhulula ezinkingeni zabo, kodwa ukundiza kubonisa ukuthi amandla akhona okwenza kanjalo, okudinga ukuthi umphuphi azindle ngezindlela ezintsha zezinkinga ezindala.
3. Ukuphupha undiza phezu kwamanzi aneziyaluyalu
Kula maphupho, amanzi amelela inkinga yemizwa engavunywanga ongayikhulumi futhi acela ophuphayo ukuthi ahlaziye impilo yakhe evukayo ukuze athole izimpawu zokuthi akakunaki ukuxokozela kwangaphakathi.
4. Ukundiza ngaphandle kwamaphiko
Kuyajabulisa futhi ngokunokwenzeka kuyadida, abaningi bethu banamaphupho adelela ukucabanga, njengokundiza ngaphandle kwamaphiko, kodwa kusho ukuthini lokhu? Ngokomoya, kungabonisa ukuthi ugcwele isifiso sokuvelela nesifiso sokwenza okuthile okumangalisayo ngempilo yakho. Kungase futhi kubonise ukuvuka kokudala noma ngokomzwelo okukunikeze umuzwa wenkululeko.
5. Ukuphupha undiza nomuntu
Ephusheni elijabulisayo, ukundiza eduze komunye umuntu kubonisa ngokuqinile ukuthi uzizwa usekelwe futhi uphephile kulowo muntu. Mhlawumbe ufuna ukuzifaka engozini nabo noma uqale uhambo olusha, kodwa lubonisa ukulungela nokwethemba ubudlelwano.
Ingxoxo iyiqiniso ngephupho elibi lokundiza. Uma umuntu onaye evimbela ukundiza kwakho noma ekujaha, cishe kuwukubonakaliswa kokukhathazeka ngalobu budlelwano. Ngisho noma kungumuntu omaziyo, kuwumqondo omuhle ukuhlola ukuxhumana empilweni yakho ukuze uqonde lapho uzizwa uvaleleke khona.