Amaphupho ngokushayela imoto kuthiwa amele ukuthi ulawula indlela oya kuyo empilweni yakho. Zingase zijabulise futhi zibe mnandi noma zesabise, kuye ngomongo wephupho. Ake sibone ukuthi ochwepheshe bathini.
Uma kukhulunywa ngezincazelo ezinhle, ukushayela imoto emaphusheni akho kungabonakala njengenye yezinhle kakhulu. Kungase kubonise uhambo oluya ekuvuthweni, umoya wokuzidela, nokuzimisela ukulawula ukuphila kwakho.
Ngokusho kongoti bokuhlaziya amaphupho, amaphupho ngokushayela imoto ayi-‘wake up call’ ukuze ubone ukuthi uwena wedwa umuntu onesibopho ngezenzo nezinqumo zakho. Ngakho-ke, uma unaleli phupho, impendulo engcono kakhulu iwukuqinisekisa ukuthi unezinhlelo ezikhona zokufinyelela imigomo yakho nokwenza umzamo wokuwenza ube ngokoqobo. Kulesi sihloko, sizobheka zonke izinhlobo zamaphupho okushayela izimoto nokuthi zingasho ukuthini empilweni yakho yokuvuka
Ukuphupha uhlehlela emuva endleleni yakho yokungena, usuke ngemoto yakho entsha sha ukuze uyiyise lapho uyohlolwa khona. Udlula izitolo zasendaweni, uvula umsakazo. Ngomzuzu olandelayo ubheka ngaphandle kwefasitela futhi, ngokuxakayo, awuboni isimo sezwe.
Manje usushayela emgwaqeni osezintabeni, unqamula uchungechunge lwezintaba ezimbozwe yiqhwa. Ngemva kwemizuzwana, iloli elikhulu liqonde kuwe, likhanyisa izibani zalo futhi likhala uphondo lwalo. Uvala amehlo akho futhi unethemba lokungcono kakhulu. Konke kuba mnyama.
Uma uzivula futhi ushayela emgwaqeni omude, oqondile wasolwandle, eduze kolwandle oluhle olunesihlabathi esimhlophe. Kwenzekani emhlabeni lapha? Ngemva komzuzu isigameko sesishintshile futhi futhi uzithola usushayela edolobheni lakubo futhi ubuyela ekhaya endleleni yakho yokungena. Bese uvuka. Konke kwakuyiphupho nje eliyinqaba. Kodwa kungasho ukuthini?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ushayela wedwa, ushayela umgibeli, ushayela ngesivinini esikhulu noma ushayelwa omunye umuntu, la maphupho angase abe nezincazelo ezahlukene. Lapha, sihlola okudume kakhulu ukushayela imoto ephupha ngokuningiliziwe.
1. Amaphupho ngokushayela imoto
Uma uhumusha lolu hlobo lwamaphupho, kubalulekile ukubuza ukuthi ubani obeshayela imoto? Uma ubushayela, lokhu kuthiwa kusho izinga lokulawula. Iphupho elinjalo lingase ligqamise iqiniso lokuthi unokuzethemba ukwenza yonke into uwedwa. Cishe uzimele futhi uzimele futhi uphethe indlela oya kuyo empilweni yakho.
2. Amaphupho okuba umgibeli emotweni
Uma bekungewena oshayela ephusheni, kufanele uzame ukukhumbula ukuthi ubani. Buyini ubuhlobo bakho nalo muntu empilweni yangempela? Uzizwe kanjani ngaye ngoba bekushayelela? Konke lokhu kubalulekile ngoba leli phupho limele ukuncika kwakho kumshayeli. Awuyilawuli impilo yakho futhi ulandela imigomo yabanye esikhundleni seyakho. Uma ushayela usuka ohlangothini lwabagibeli bemoto, kusho ukuthi uzama ukulawula indlela impilo yakho eyithathayo.
3. Amaphupho ngokushayela ngokushesha okukhulu
Ukushayela ngokushesha kakhulu kungase kubonise izinqumo eziyingozi ze-noma ukuziphushela emikhawulweni eyingozi. Uma ubushayela ngokushesha, iphupho lakho lingase likutshele ukuthi wehlise ijubane futhi ujabulele indawo yokuphila kancane. Emigqeni efanayo, ukuphupha usemotweni omunye umuntu eshayela ngokushesha kungase kubonise ukukhathazeka kwakho ngokuthi isimo senzeka ngokushesha kangakanani ngaphandle kokukwazi ukusinciphisa.
4. Amaphupho ngokushayelela omunye umuntu
Akulona uphawu oluhle uma unomunye umuntu emotweni omshayelelayo, ngokusho kwezangoma zamaphupho. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi ochwepheshe babo bakholelwa ukuthi kusho ukuthi ungu-‘uzodumala esikhathini esizayo esiseduze’ futhi abanye babangane bakho ‘bangakukhaphela nganoma yisiphi isikhathi’.
Ukuphendula iphupho:
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi amaphupho akho ayajabulisa noma ayethusa, ukushayela imoto kuthiwa kubonisa ikhono lakho lokuhlala uqinile phansi. Ngisho nokuhlala emotweni noma ukuyibuka ukude kungaveza okuningi ngendlela ozilolonga ngayo imigomo yakho yokuphila. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amaphupho okushayela agcwele izimpawu ezinjengamarobhothi. Ilambu elibomvu libonisa ukumisa noma yini oyenzayo futhi izindlela eziluhlaza zihamba nganoma yiluphi ulimi.
Nomake kwesinye iskhathi ukuphupha usemotweni njengomgibeli kungaba uphawu lwesifo, kungenzeka ezihlotsheni zakho eziseduze noma kungabika isifu kumalunga akho omndeni.